Husbands are another species….


Different time zones…

Have you ever found that you are in a different time zone to your partner? It seems to be getting worse in our house. Yes, we are retired, and have no specific commitments at the moment, but we seem to be becoming even more of an owl and a lark. I’m not criticising my lovely husband, but he is definitely becoming more of an evening person, while I would prefer to go to bed early and get up as soon as I wake. I don’t know if we’ll ever have breakfast at the same time again!


Our daily routine goes something like this – I wake around 7.30-8am. Now, I completely understand that some of you will have been up for hours by now, and maybe some are even sitting at their desks or working elsewhere, but that’s just how I am. If my husband was left to sleep, I’m convinced he wouldn’t stir until gone 9 or later. I usually make us a drink – mint tea for me, coffee for him, and he wakes when I bring it upstairs and open the curtains. I drink my tea, have a quick look at my IPad, then by 9 I need to get up and get going – a quick shower, a small breakfast, and I’m ready to do something.

Some days I might just start some boring housework, washing, cooking, or even cleaning if I’m in the mood. Other days I might need to go out in the car somewhere, to a large food store maybe, or just window shopping, or to see a friend, or the library. Sometimes I get back about 11 and husband hasn’t even got out of bed! Should I complain about this? Now, he is a little older than me and has more achy bones than me, and has to take some medications, so I make allowances for this, but I still think half the day is wasted. Or is he just being lazy?

What I have been doing, is to also use these BHGU hours (before husband gets up) to catch up with my sewing, knitting, blogging, emailing etc. But this can cause problems with meal times. Today for instance, it’s 1142am, I have already checked my emails and blogs, been to buy a newspaper, and earlier I made myself a pot of fresh coffee and warmed up a croissant. Husband is just going to have a bath. So his breakfast will be nearer 1215! Goodness, that’s nearly my lunchtime! If I have lunch, it will be something small, generally eaten before 1.30pm. Husband would happily have something at 3.30 in the afternoon! I like to eat my evening meal around 7.30. I find I can’t physically eat much after 8.30. Husband has been known to start cooking his evening meal at 1030pm if I am out, or away somewhere, or having a non-eating day.


Although we are in our 60s, we have only been married for five years. Both of us had previous marriages of over 25 years, and I guess you just get used to doing things together over time, which is difficult to change. But we certainly aren’t doing much eating together at the moment! Yes, it’s good to have some time to yourself, and I think people should not be forced to do something they don’t want to, but I think we are not really spending the day together as much as I’d like to…….


3 thoughts on “Husbands are another species….

  1. I’m a lark, usually wake about, lay in bed until 7.30, I do wake up my husband and we have breakfast together about 8-00 am, about we are out on the farm, moving stock etc, we have all our meals together, been married fifty-six years.
    We are both in our seventies.
    All the best to you, I don’t think I could cope with your life as it is now.

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  2. The title made me smile! I can totally feel you. It could also happen with interracial marriages. I couldn’t recall how many times i caught myself in a trance and thinking how much me & my husband are so different..Differences makes relationship more fun because you really find a way to make it work by not compromising both feelings & but at the end of the day, i still stick with him.:)


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